Ladies, For Pity's Sake...Stop Waiting By The Phone

Dear beautiful, intelligent, and good-natured reader,

Yes, you heard me correctly. You have handed out your number to some fellow in the bar or club (that might have been your first mistake) and now, the weekend is dribbling away and you are wondering why he has not called when he said that he would (that is another mistake). Now you are glancing at the phone, jumping every time it rings, slamming it down in frustration when it is not him (no, no, no). Now you are even considering calling him since he gave you his number (that was another mistake). Do Not Call Him. For heaven's sake, PLEASE DON'T!

How can I stress it to you that you are better than this? You do not linger in places expressly for the purpose of finding some man who will hit on you and then ask for your number. A lovely, fascinating creature such as yourself has many things that you might do on the weekend and people to be with and places to go and things to see. You simply do not have time for that whateverhisnamewas who can't pick up a phone.

And if you ever bump into that fellow again by chance, and he has the gall to hit on you again, tell him to go bother somebody with no friends, no liesure, no pleasures, no hobbies, no prospects and no life. For surely, that must be the sort of creature he is after if this is how he conducts his courtship.

You, however, have hobbies, interests, work, friends and admirers. You love your life and do not need a man who does not value you enough to call to give your life meaning or excitement.

Get into the habit of saying to men in bars, that if they want to call you, to find your number themselves. If you meet a man who seems stellar in a place other than a bar and he asks for your number, you may give it to him if he says he will call you about the weekend. Remember, if he waits until Friday night to call you, he is too late. Inform him that you have your weekends booked by Wednesday.

The bottom line is: You are not being "demanding" by insisting that a fellow call when he says he will. You are being independent and self-respecting by not clinging to the phone or checking your cell every ten minutes.